Well, I’m an intuitive. And I went to somebody who used to do intuitive readings, and she said “You can do this.” She said to come by on Sundays, and I went for a year, until I got in touch with my intuition, until I could start helping people with it. And then I practiced on everybody I could practice on. And in January of 1994, I moved in my house in October of 1993, and in January somebody offered me money for doing a reading. And that same week, somebody else, who came from somebody completely different, did the same thing. I never ever thought I was going to do it for my living, but the universe had something else in mind! So I teach intuition classes, I have relationships support groups, and now I start writing dating profiles for people - I keep seeing people struggling to get in relationships. It’s a real struggle for everyone. It used to be much easier to meet people, because they were out and about, but now everybody is in front of their computers… there’s no guarantee of meeting someone in the grocery section of Whole Foods. So what really happened to cause me to decide to do that is I had a client who wanted to get married and have kids, and she said she had her profile online, she was doing online dating, and I said “Well, did you tell them you wanted to get married and have kids?” And she said “No, I usually wait until the second or third date” and I said “Well, why would do that? You should tell ‘em right upfront, so you’re not wasting your time going out with somebody that doesn’t want the same thing you do.” So that’s when my own intuition kicked in. For me, I realized I needed to help people with that. I started to do some public speaking on relationships, why we pick who we pick, online dating, and then people have questions, and I really like that, because I haven’t found a question I haven’t been able to answer when it comes to relationships. Seems to be my speciality! And the people whom I help write profiles - I help give them guidance - the first line is always be REALLY clear about what they want, and it’s shockingly successful. Some serious relationships have come from that! And it’s funny, because my intuition does play into it, FOR SURE. It’s not really the format at all. I catch things that people wouldn’t catch if they weren’t intuitive. It’s been surprising to me how easy it is for me to catch things, to say “no, don’t put that in there, that’s not what you want.” I had one woman who wrote that she wanted a man to open a door for her, that she liked manners. And something about that didn’t hit me right, so I said “We need to talk about that, you need to leave that out.” She said “it’s important to me.” And I said “Have you been married before?” And she said “Yes, three times.” And I said “Were they narcissists”? And she said “How did you know that!” And I said “Because you said you wanted them to have manners. There’s no narcissist that doesn’t have manners. That’s why they are charming. Do you want another narcissist?” And she said “No.” And then I said “Well, you have to leave that out. Can you give up the manners for someone who’s not a narcissist?”
Another time I had a client who was really beautiful, just naturally stunning. And I said “Do you want to be picked for what you look like?” And she said “No.” And then I said “Well, I want you to take the worst photo of yourself and that’s what we’ll post.” So she sent me a couple of photos of her with no makeup and messy hair, waking up first thing in the morning, and of course she was still gorgeous, she went from a 10 to an 8.5, but I said that’s the only one we’re using.
There are some things that are very standard suggestions across the board, but the best is intuitive, we really work together to make sure that it says EXACTLY the right thing to get ‘em the right person. I always say “You don’t need to date 100 people, you only need 1 or 2 responses if we did this thing right.” It makes it less painful.