Over the years I have found myself in many situations where I am being hit on, either in a polite manner or maybe a not-so-polite manner. More often than not, I have responded with "I am not looking right now." or "I have a boyfriend" (even when I don't.) I have always found it extremely difficult to straight out say "At this time, I am not interested in you."
Sure, no one wants to make anyone feel bad who has worked up the courage to approach someone and ask them out, but sometimes I still feel this pressure to not hurt someone's feelings even if that person is being disgusting, invading of my space, and in general not respecting me as a human being.
But why? Why has it become the norm to allow disgusting behavior? Why do we as women have this pressure to not damage the delicate ego of a man that doesn't respect us in return?
I think sometimes I feel fear that if I don't say "I have a boyfriend" that the man may become aggressive, especially in situations where alcohol is involved and to be honest this has happened to me. When I really think about that sentence though, the fact that someone can only respect what I am saying if I am another man's "property", instead of just accepting the non-interest is just absolutely unacceptable.
How can we make progression here? What can we as a society do to grow?
Have you had experiences like this? What has helped you find your voice?
If you are looking for an extremely powerful analogy regarding consent, check out this video.
Tea Consent: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oQbei5JGiT8