> I end up deep focusing on accomplishing some tiny specific thing and then I get wiped out because I forgot to also do the twelve other things I should have been doing at the same time.
This is usually how my Northgard game goes. Focus on fast expanding territory, do great at that, then don't have enough wood and food to get through the winter and everyone starves 😭.
As far as RTS goes, Paradox grand strategy games are nice in that they allow you to pause the game, make some decisions, and then continue running the game. Very different feel than a turn based game like Civilization. Maybe a better name for them is "Simulation Strategy". I have spent way too much time on Crusader Kings II, Europa Universalis IV and Stellaris.