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    • wx

      A motorcycle tangled with a car and a van on Interstate 85 in suburban Atlanta. Someone in the van died.

      Traffic was stopped for a while. But not too long. Soon enough, everything was back up and running, like nothing had happened at all.

      As metaphors go, it's not subtle.

      We are the central character of our drama, the star of a show we can't stop watching. But the world little notices or cares. We die. The traffic keeps on running.

      I'm being morbid. I wasn't always. It was the death of my parents, I think. I never gave much thought to funeral processions until I was in one. You want them to be important. Politely, people make way. And then they go about their business, reminding you that in the great scheme, not a one of us matters.

    • Ridge

      People that meet me and discover how active I am will often ask me how/where do I find the motivation and time to train, race, travel, etc. I could respond with a lengthy thesis on the importance of prioritizing fitness in one's daily life, but I've learned that is often met with either a roll of the eyes or I lose them in the details.

      What it really boils down to is that Time is a non-renewable and finite resource; use it wisely.

    • Chris

      Exactly to both of you! Once upon a time Jeff Bezos hired a president for Amazon and took a few months off, apparently burned out. But after the time off, he came back and said it's because he wanted to feel needed, to matter. And to feel informed, and fit.

      Very rare is the person who can feel needed or matter like him, but no days go by when I don't think about wanting to be needed, wanting to matter to someone, at least in small ways. I often wonder why it drives me like it does, but I guess it's just built into us a humans.

    • Ridge

      That, sir, is a conundrum of mankind that has persisted for eons. We all want to matter and find purpose in life that transcends our selfish desires. For many, they find purpose and selflessness in their children. I've heard, time and again, how having a child provokes a sense of resposibility and purpose that is intangible; but that seems (to me) to be temporary until the child becomes self aware and self reliant. The empty nest syndrome invokes yet another quest for many to find another cause for contribution and purpose to a greater good.

    • Chris

      I wonder what happens to athletes when they retire at so young an age. I know they are under a ton of pressure and subject to burnout when they're playing, but what happens after they're out for a year?

      Isn't that true of almost every career and raising children? So what is the right thing to do when it ends? Get involved in charities? Can you feel the same sense of fulfillment as you did raising kids or advancing in your career?

    • Dracula

      A book that helped me stay sane through some of the worst grieving times in my life was Man's Search for Meaning - by Viktor Frankl. It does go to explain how our aim for meaning shifts depending where in life we are, and I'd think it's pointless to put my personal spin on it, but definitely recommend reading it to anyone interested in deeper investigating what drives us in life.

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