I ended up getting a maxed out 16" MacBook Pro with 64GB ram, 8GB vram, and 2.4ghz 8-core i9. I upgraded from a 2016 MacBook pro 15" touchbar i7.
Performance-wise, it's stellar. I haven't had thermal issues where my CPU is throttled below the base clock. So, it's a bit faster than the last generation in real-world productivity situations. The 64GB of memory is night and day better for the work I do. The video card is so so, but 8GB vram is nice to have.
The touch bar crashes way more often than my previous laptop, the 2016 original touch bar. It probably crashes twice a day. I've been on top of updates hoping software can fix this. So far, no luck.
It looks and feels very similar to my 2016 Macbook touch bar. No one I work with noticed I upgraded laptops, but EVERYONE is astonished by how good the speakers sound. If anything, it's a damn good $5k jukebox.