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    • tomstar3000

      So there I was at the pub smoking a cigar on the back patio watching a baseball game.

      Every few minutes is pick up my phone and go through FB. I immediately thought, this is dumb. I deactivated my account.

      I thought I'd spend the first day jonesing hard for that that ugly blue website. Do the withdrawals come on slow? I sure hope not.

    • bstrong

      Good for you!

      I haven’t deactivated my account, but the app no longer exists on my phone, which effectively brought my usage to zero.

      The tipping point for me was when I realized I was opening the app only to scroll past a bunch of viral videos, memes, shameless “I’m on vacation” check-ins, and political posts, just to find the latest Daily Show clip. Turns out YouTube is way better to find those clips. 😄

      I don’t miss it one bit. Kinda like how I don’t miss watching the news after I cut cable nearly 7 years ago.

    • vegasphotog
      Robert Baker

      I have not used the app for a couple of years and refused to ever sign up for messenger. I access via Firefox on my LG phone and if I need to get messages I toggle the box that says view in desktop mode. I turn off all notifications. I manage about 15 business pages for clients but I had gone from over 1000 "friends" and over the last two years I finally got under 100. About a month ago I went all the way back to day one when I signed up and deleted over 4000 posts that were not archive worthy. Facebook will still keep those posts for one year to datamine the crap out of them but now I am committed to delete all posts over 90 days unless it is a special event that includes photos of good friends. Most people really do not give a crap about anything over 48 hours.

      BTW...this sounds nasty, but when I unfriend them, I also block them. Facebook will continue to show your stuff in their feed and it gets akward. I probably have about 3000+ blocked people because it is the ONLY WAY to try and manage what friends of friends of friends of friends of friends of friends of friends actually see.

    • petebocken

      Deactivated mine like 2 years ago and completely deleted it few months ago. I still have to keep my second "fake" account around to manage client pages though. Definitely is nice to spend time elsewhere that is more productive, fun, and/or satisfying.

    • tomstar3000

      Fortunately I don't think I need to at least have a dummy account. I know that when I had my own business page, I was getting near zero interaction. I've noticed with my meager 480 friend count I was getting even less interaction.

      Facebook should see the writing on the wall. They've exploited their users for financial gain for far too long.

    • Chris
      Chris MacAskill

      I have a love-hate relationship with it and miss what it once was.

      For keeping up with friends and family, it's hard to beat. It's just that to please Wall Street, they had to increase engagement, so news, cat videos, things for sale, etc.—all in one app, making it harder to figure out what my family was doing among all the noise.

      I still love Reddit and YouTube, and increasingly Cake as we get more signups. But none of those are good for keeping up with my family.

    • petebocken

      Text messaging/iMessage has mainly replaced that for me, plus it's (usually) to the point and I don't have to be subjected to every single thing someone has to say or wants to post. Instagram has been OK too, however there is something to say about the "fake" feeling of people only posting their best self. It then can lead to you feeling bad about your own life.

    • GrahamC

      For the day to day our family uses Whatsapp, it's great for group messaging all the silly trivia topics and photos etc. but if that ever becomes to 'noisy' then that will go as well. There is always room at the front for a better method to do these things.

    • DanSolarMan

      I have the same love hate relationship. But way closer to the hate. I’ve seen the wrecking ball that it can be and enjoyed the posts from so many people. A guy called me yesterday and saw a post where I posted up the sign from my hometown as I passed it. He gave me guff for not stopping in as I passed by. It was very nice to catch up with an old friend. I know I need to use it for business and I absolutely loathe that part mainly because I don’t know how to best use it.

      I rate it a net negative, I truly hope you and all the folks that work so hard on Cake realize your dream. It’s nice to be at a friendly safe place.

    • Chris
      Chris MacAskill

      It's incredibly sobering to ponder that of the 1,000 wonderful things I could devote my life to, I have chosen one: to build Cake.

      It's especially sobering when I read a book like Jaron Lanier's new one: Ten Arguments For Deleting Your Social Media Accounts Right Now.

      Jaron is a respected technologist and TED speaker who has been sounding this alarm for a very long time. My hopeful view of the world is you could say the same about the free press and you would be right, some of the media can be crazy bad: I would say Alex Jones, some would say Rachel Maddow.

      But if Facebook and Twitter are bad, then doesn't the argument to build something good get stronger, not weaker?

    • marchyman

      I can agree with some of Lanier's arguments. However, #7 "Social Media is making you unhappy" rings false. I suppose you can let social media make you unhappy, but that is your choice, no?

      I never did Facebook for the simple reason that it didn't appeal to me. I tried Linked-In for a short while when it was new. When I started getting requests to link with people only because we happened to work for the same company -- at different points in time -- I gave up and cancelled my account. I find Twitter useful for following some media outlets. It lets me know when something is happening. I can click on links if I want to know more. However, I have never used it on my phone. I'd probably be interested in Instagram, but fully admit that the fact it is owned by Facebook turns me off.

      Of course I can get away with ignoring social media as a means of staying in touch because I'm an old retired guy. Plus, I've been called anti-social for good reason ;) I imagine it is much harder for those currently at school/work.

    • lidja

      I, too, joined fb when my kids were all about it. They moved on (mostly to IG) years ago and I find I’m just sort of wandering away from social media. I was an early adopter of Twitter and then it went sour, LinkedIn lost me when they started the whole endorsement baloney, Snapchat just seemed like a total fad... I’m pretty much just burned out on it all.

      My eldest grandkid is just now starting to get into FaceTime, so that’s probably going to be the next way we stay connected. No ads, no memes, no friend requests—-just straight up heart-to-heart livestream communication. :)

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