If there’s one lesson to learn from Riess’ book, it’s that there are as many different understandings of the gospel as there are people in the world.
People have to work these things out for themselves no matter how things are “written up.”
You have acted in good faith according to what you believe. That is integrity. You are not so arrogant to think everyone must believe as you do. You are pained at the thought of losing friendships. You wish the best for others. It seems to me you are doing your best, living what you believe and yet not condemning others who have alternative perspectives. Humility.
Integrity and humility. Not a bad combination.