Thank you so much for having me on the panel. I found that patience and flexibility were some of the most important parts in raising Mikhaela, as with any child. I created choices within limits (for example, "it's time for bed, would you like to walk, hop, jump, or skip to bed?"). We always assumed competence, allowing Mikhaela to try first and accommodate second allowing her to rise.
I also suggest using many different modalities until you find what works. Not all strategies work for all children. Arm yourself with all the knowledge you can. Attend educational meetings, find local resources and networks. Also use teachable moments every chance you can--and get the teachers to do the same.
Use a running dialogue by describing out loud what you are doing with each daily task to help develop processing for your child. Get a good assessment so you have a roadmap on best strategies.
Most importantly, never lose faith and always believe in your child and in yourself. Amazing Grace, faith is key.
Attached is a chart of some of my favorite strategies Mikhaela and I used while she was growing up to find independence and quality of life. Keep in mind every autistic person is different and may prefer other strategies.