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    • Of course a relationship should go both ways. So ideally, if the one for you cares more for you than you do yourself, in return you should also care more for that person than they do themselves.

    • Back when I was 19 or 20, an older adult said that marriage is not a 50-50 proposition but a 100-100 proposition. I really did not understand what he meant until I got married. There were times when my wife needed everything I had to give. She was in intense pain due to what we finally discovered was endometriosis. Sadly, although what she needed was an endometrial ablatian she was not offered that until we switch medical providers due to a very upsetting encounter.

      This was not the only time that she had nothing to give me because of how great her critical need was. The point is that she was not a taker but there were times when I needed to give her 100% and not expect "payback."

      Jesus told his followers: "But love your enemies, and do them good, and lend, hoping for nothing again; and your reward shall be great, and you shall be sons of the Most High: for He is kind toward the unthankful and evil.

      Love is a verb. Since one can love an enemy, surely one can also love a spouse during bad times as well as during the delightful times.

    • How do you know when you've found "The One"?

      When you can’t see yourself being with anyone else when things take a turn for the worse.

      I suspect that a lot of marriages are going to end this year because of the Pandemic: there are “fair-weather marriages” just as there are “fair-weather friends.”

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    • "When you can’t see yourself being with anyone else when things take a turn for the worse." I think that's an inciteful statement.

    • Me and my 'one' were married 38 years yesterday and have been living together for 40.

      I think at the start you 'know' because everything is completely natural and effortless. Like gears meshing. Hanging out together is symbiotic.

      Romance, the mushy feelings and lust lay the foundations, but to make it last, more than anything you have to be best friends and full of mutual respect.

      If those parts aren't there - she isn't the one.