I agree with you proposition of understanding each person is at a different location of their development (psychological, spiritual, consciousness, etc). What if a person's actions, words, and orientations is a complex expression of their own unique process?
I believe the ultimate heart of the life experience is the “ultimate union of humanity and divinity in the body” (Ferrer, 2006).
To embody something is be a tangible expression of a thought, a belief, a quality, a or feeling. It’s to transmute the abstract, intangible quality in living and breathing flesh right in front of you that you can touch, feel, relate to. The phsyical is an expression of the subtle (somestimes nonconscious) parts of ourselves.
“That person is the embodiment of kindness.”
Everything about that person – what they say, how they say it, what they do, how they do it – is an expression of kindness. It’s not merely just saying kind words or doing a kind act, that actual core essence of being is kindness.
Perhaps a way and place to explore the paradox and wisom is within the nonverbal, nonlinear language of the body. AND, perhaps what which we experience (sensations, images, feels, subtle nonverbal) are pure experiences that we have. When we attempt to translate this into meaning making and disconnect from the phenomenological pure exploration of consciousness. The meaning making reduces our abilites to remain open to the mulidimensionality of our experience.
The body is the meeting place where the spirit (or immaterial) and physical world integrate, and how the spirit transmutes into physical form.