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    • Has the novelty of Zooming with family and friends worn off? As in you’re now making excuses for not attending Thursday Night Family Zoom sessions?

      If both you and your spouse are sheltering in place together, what strategies have you come up with to give each other personal space?

      Or, if you’re remote working with your kids at home, how many times have you considered giving them up for adoption?

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    • We used FaceTime a few times to see our friends and family. About a month ago, 8 of us got on a FaceTime call to wish happy birthday and "virtually" blow the candle on the cake. Most other times, we use voice calls. No one wants to show their messy hair, same pajama outfits, and chaos around the house. I may be projecting, but that is the sentiment.

      As far as relationships within the household, they have been more stressful for everybody. We found that giving each other space, have everyone stay in "their rooms" has relieved some of the pressure. A few minutes spent at a back yard with some green grass and a few trees helps calm the mind.

      Another important aspect of mental health is to get off the constant barrage of news. We don't have a TV turned on, but everyone is on their phones on YouTube.

      It is challenging to stop reading and watching the news all day long. If we let ourselves get sucked into the vortex of doom and gloom, we lose energy for the rest of the day.

    • At home it felt like there were divorce worthy moments. Especially as we didn't agree about the level of isolation required, and how much effort we want to put in to the homeschooling of the kids.

    • We've had moments of reflection on our relationship and future, but we never got to the boiling point. Some of our friends have had serious relationship problems, including calling off a yet to be announced wedding and going separate ways. There has been some healing over the last couple of weeks, but it won't be the same.

      I'm usually not much into memes, but I couldn't resist saving a screenshot of this one found on the webs.

    • I can well imagine how it would wreck my relationship with some people, but I won the jackpot when I married Toni so everything's good. She likes to work at home and I do too and we're constantly finding funny or surprising things on the net and sharing them with each other. The dog amuses us, we Facetime the family and that's exciting, we find people in the neighborhood are friendlier and more relaxed. We go out hiking.

      We're loving every day of it.

    • My wife is home because the local schools are closed, so we’re 24/7 together since I went on furlough two weeks ago. Some nights I stay up an hour two (or three) past her going to bed, sleep late, and then read for an hour in bed. So there’s at least a couple hours buffer in the morning before we first speak. It definitely helps if one of you is a morning person and the other is not.

      We spend most of the day doing our own thing on separate floors, similar to @Vilen’s situation of separate rooms. Around three thirty, my wife and I will watch an hour long tv episode: this afternoon it was the first episode of Devs. Then the tv’s off and we do our own thing until it’s time to cook dinner.

      I have no freaking clue how parents deal with young kids under sheltering in place. They add a layer of stress to the equation and magnify the differences that parents have on how to deal with issues. (All of the kids are grown, and the only one still living with us has an entire floor to themselves.)

    • We came out of a years travel in a motorhome to go into isolation/lockdown at home so having a whole house to spread out in is an amount of space we'd become unaccustomed to.

      MrsEddieB and I probably spend at least half the day in the same room doing our own thing but now it's 15 feet apart instead of 2 feet, and we have the option to go into another room if we want!

    • I stay with my immediate family so nothing has changed in that regard. We usually visit my grandparents on weekends, so that's not an option now. We video call my paternal grandma occasionally, but my maternal grandma isn't that tech savvy and her eyesight isn't that good. So we sent her a tablet just so we could video call her while we're stuck at home.

      I don't really keep in touch with friends, but when I go to work I do always meet one special friend 😉 We meet everyday at work and we always have breakfast and lunch together. On days when we go back late we have dinner together too. The pandemic has meant that we haven't seen each other for 2 months, so we've been video calling every night before going to bed. We did meet a couple of days ago since the restrictions have been relaxed, and it was very nice to be able to see her again 😊 If anything, being isolated from each other has made us realise just how used we are to spending every day together.

    • As Chris posted, winning the marriage lottery is key to thriving while sequestered. My work involved considerable travel while Judie stayed home rasing our boys and then pursuing an academic career. Seven years of retirement have allowed us to adapt to being in close proximity most days. "Sheltering in place" just intensifies the experience. We enjoy planning and preparing meals together then adjourn to seperate spaces for hobby activities.

      Of course we miss hugs from grandchildren, visiting favorite resturants and socializing with friends! We've posponed a long anticipated camper van road trip to California this summer, but are catching up on chores around the house. Phone conversations, text messages and facetime keep us in touch with children and grandchildren who are experiencing much greater disruption in their daily lives. We feel their pain as they confront realities that cannot be changed but must be endured. Oddly, I feel closer to my own parents these days; the stories they told of growing up during the Great Depression on impoverished southern farms resonate as never before.

    • We are really loving the extra time at home over here as well. I’m homeschooling anyway, and we have some space to run around outside, so I didn’t expect too many changes. However, my husband’s lighter work schedule (as a family physician) has meant we see more of him. He’s home for dinner every night and home all day 4 days per week. He has more brain cells for playing with kids and chatting with me. We’ve been picking up hobbies together, and he’s been able to support me in some of my outside-of-mothering goals, like getting my blog back up and running, and getting myself back up and running!

      We’ve actually changed up our routines to spend more time together: getting up early at the same time, and going to bed early(er) at the same time.

      We just kicked off Family Olympics today, complete with flags and anthems. 🤣