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    • OK, this may be a long shot, but I’m wondering if I could have a little more authority over my profile activity steam than just “public” and “private”?

      I have always had my activity stream set as private because it feels a little stalker-y to me to let anyone see all of my posts in all conversations I’ve ever participated in. I am OK posting my thoughts in a thread where I know others are participating, and even where I know there are probably lurkers—but at least I know those participants/lurkers are there because they have some sort of interest in the *topic* and they aren’t trying to track me personally. So far, that’s been fine.

      However, when someone has tried to figure out how to reach me with a sidebar comment/request, they have had to either post it in an existing (public) Cake thread, or find me on some other social media platform. This is getting to be kind of weird.

      So, my work-around idea is to post a simple “Wanna reach me? Try here.” conversation that would show up on my profile activity stream (and essentially wash away in the overall Cake traffic after a few minutes)—but I still want to hide everything else so that would be the only conversation visible to others in my activity stream in my profile page—still public, but just a little less obtrusive.

      Is there a way to do this? Or maybe a better way to be accessible for sidebar conversations and still have authority to delete if comments are inappropriate?

    • I think one workaround is to list on your profile how to contact you. Google+ refugees @CadeJohnson and @RogerVerhoeven do a nice job of this on their profiles:

      https://www.cake.co/users/CadeJohnson

      https://www.cake.co/users/RogerVerhoeven

      Perhaps a simple, “For DMs, contact me here ➡️“ and a link to whatever DM-enabled platform you check regularly.

      Or

      You could do old school blog commenter-style and sign each of your posts like this ⬇️

      apm

      DMs: https://bit.ly/2AFOPpm

    • All good ideas, @apm.

      Theoretically. though, I would like to wean myself off of all other social media platforms and just hang out on Cake. Not sure I want to post my email address. (but of course, now you all know how much I pay attention to my email, so maybe that’s not such a good excuse. 🤣)

    • From what’s been shared here, I believe the Cake team is devoting most of their resources right now on creating the Q&A panel portal. I also think there are a number of high priority items on their “next to do list” that would put a Cake DM feature far down on the list.

      It’s just a guess on my part, but I would plan on needing an outside DM channel, to exchange private messages with Cake users, from now to at least this Summer.

      Twitter would be my preferred option since you can set it up where you have to approve DM requests, thereby avoiding the spam you’d get if you instead posted your email address on your profile. You can also set up Twitter to email you if you receive a DM request or a new DM. If you assign a new email address to your Twitter account it may be easier to see notifications, instead of being buried amongst your 65,000(?) unread emails with your primary email account.

      😎

    • I appreciate your reply, @apm. Thank you.

      (Just for the record, I don’t want a private DM channel in Cake. I much prefer Cake’s emphasis on topic-centered conversation and I think private DMs introduce a different dynamic. I would just like a way to have a sidebar conversation when necessary.)

    • I would just like a way to have a sidebar conversation when necessary.

      Okay, now I understand: sometimes it takes me awhile to connect the dots.

      The main thing, imho, is not to add noise that disrupts the main conversation. Personally, I would find this ⬇️ practice annoying as heck at the bottom of posts, and you probably would risk getting the post hidden by the owner of that conversation thread.

      ****************

      Hey @VilTri

      Saw your eggs conversation was FEATURED. Congrats! You entering in any triathlons this spring? Which ones?

      Best,

      apm

    • Exactly.

      That’s why I wonder if a “catch-all” kind of a conversation that’s accessible from my profile page would work—maybe tagged with a “Sidebar” category or somethinng (a category no one would subscribe to)?

      So, for instance, when Pathfinder is commenting in a thread and mentions a trip to the Kimbell, instead of interrupting the flow of that conversation, I could go to his profile page, find the “Contact me here” conversation in his activity stream, and post “Pathfinder! I’d love to learn more about your trip to the Kimbell!” and not disrupt the flow of the original conversation. Just like if we were all standing around in a group and he mentioned the trip to the Kimbell in passing during a conversation—I would wait till the conversation continued on its path, and then turn to Pathfinder and quietly ask about the Kimbell. It’s not like a DM, it’s more like a sidebar. Still a public conversation.

      My own personal opinion about Cake is that it should stay *very* committed to its topic-centric DNA and not get sucked into the cult of personality, which DMs support IMHO. But that’s just me...

    • I just remembered that I didn't give much thought to my profile description when I signed up on Cake. Decided to do the same thing on my profile as you suggested too. Since I link to my Cake profile on my Twitter profile, I should do the reverse as well.

    • I have always had my activity stream set as private because it feels a little stalker-y to me to let anyone see all of my posts in all conversations I’ve ever participated in.

      I'm in the same boat - my activity is set to private because I don't need random people to get the "full picture" about me too easily.

      However, when someone has tried to figure out how to reach me with a sidebar comment/request, they have had to either post it in an existing (public) Cake thread, or find me on some other social media platform. This is getting to be kind of weird.

      I think there might be a third option in some cases. Using your later example of someone mentioning a visit to the Kimbell, couldn't you start a conversation about that yourself and just tag the other person asking for their opinion?

      For me, receiving a "request for comment" like this would often be helpful, because I don't know what weird anecdote that I might have hinted at once people are actually interested in. ;)