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    • I read The Atlantic story and to be honest my reaction was wait, what? Why have I never paid much attention to this? I had a classmate at Stanford who had a super pronounced stutter. We talked about it some but I guess I never thought much about it. I get a twitch in my eyelid that’s neurological and inherited, and I suppose I thought they were the same-ish.

      Our dean had a very pronounced stutter and he was a fellow in the National Academy of Sciences. It has never occurred to me that it may have been related to intelligence.

      After reading your feelings, I thought about what I wrote of Elon Musk’s Cybertruck announcement where I complained that he didn’t seem well prepared and he stuttered. In people like myself who don’t have a real stutter, I do stammer when I’m not well rehearsed. But now I started to wonder if he has a real stutter and I was being a thoughtless jerk. There is a lot of speculation online that he does.

      Anyway, thank you for coming out and sharing insight. I somehow vaguely thought it would be like having vision or hearing problems, just a card you’re dealt but no shame attached. I had no idea.

    • One of my therapists when I was in high school told me that almost everyone stutters from time to time and that a lot of people have a stutter when they are very young. The difference between people like me and people like you is that people like me notice we are doing it and are aware of it. People like you don't notice it and so you forget about it. I'm not saying that is necessarily true, it's just what one of my speech therapists told me.

      It's a lot like riding a bicycle, maybe. I have heard that the difference betwee people who can ride a bike and those that can't is that those who can believe they're not going to fall and so they don't, whereas those who can't are constantly worried about falling and so they fall.

      That might be while I am able to teach. While I am in class I am concerned about what I am teaching and classroom management and maybe a dozen other things and so for a brief period of time I have too many things to worry about and so my stutter gets pushed to the very back of my mind. With not thinking about it so much, I am able to speak more fluently. Just a thought.

    • I've never learned how to swim. For me it's getting the hang of breathing right. I always seem to inhale at the wrong time.

    • My perception of you is that you are a quite intelligent dude, @zorxique , and I’d imagine that it’s frustrating sometimes to not share your thoughts, ideas and insights in face to face small group settings

      Thank you. I'm also a busy dude, as should be evidenced by the fact that it has taken me so long to respond. I try to participate in conversations on here, but I often find that I don't have the free time or chance to do so and when I do have free time, I'm usually stressed out from work that I don't really feel like it.

      It can be very frustrating in social settings sometimes as often there is something I want to say or an opinion I want to share or a point I want to make, but I feel l can't because I won't be able to actually get it out. But as I've said, I've learned to deal with it. So I often do a lot of smiling and nodding and have become, I think, a very good listener. So, if we ever meet and I'm being very quiet, I'm probably not bored or not paying attention, I'm just listening very intently and filing everything that people are saying away to think about later.

    • I try to participate in conversations on here, but I often find that I don't have the free time or chance to do so and when I do have free time, I'm usually stressed out from work that I don't really feel like it.

      People have no idea how mentally exhausting a day of teaching can be.

      Back in my 20s, I used to read a Bodybuilding column, “The Hard Gainer,” religiously. The premise was that if you were working a twelve hour day in a stressful job, the best exercise at that point might be sleep. If I understand things, engaging in conversation on Cake is a way to reduce frustration and to build up your energy resources (mental, emotional, etc.), but you often don’t have the energy to engage.

    • This has been a fascinating conversation for me because it’s made me think about what it must be like to have a stutter more than I ever have. I think of my self as not having a neurological stutter, but stuttering when I’m not well rehearsed. But now I’m paying attention to it, and what I’m actually doing is buying time between thoughts by inserting uh and um.

      I’m going to be more understanding of what real stutterers go through now.