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    • Chris
      Chris MacAskill

      Probably because of the shocking news we've been reading, about Harvey Weinstein and other horrible men this year, I took a real interest in the headlines about Women's Day. I wonder how many people are like me and didn't pay enough attention in previous years.

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      International Women’s Day 2018: Beyond #MeToo, With Pride, Protests and Pressure

      👆Different causes, but protests in so many countries around the world.

    • Meditrider

      I certainly didn't pay enough attention over the years. But a patient wife, two lovely daughter's in law, and three amazing granddaughters have made a believer out of me. When women Rule, the world will be better place to live

    • ia

      I’m not a fan of these events. Not because I don’t care but because we should live our lives in such a way we don’t need to pick one day each year to celebrate women.

      I can’t help but think about the movie Hidden Figures. I’m actually kinda mad about that. It took 60 years to learn about the ladies who helped put a man on the moon. We should be celebrating/recognizing/inspired by/etc their accomplishments years ago.

      Wouldn’t it have been nice to have those ladies as role models growing up?

    • flei

      The fact that we need to have an "International Women's Day" makes me feel angry and sad . That at this point in human history we still need to have a special day to celebrate women indicates the patriarchcal dominance and gender inequality that we have yet to overcome.

    • Bradford

      I think that any of these days have a value, but they are in no means a solution. But it is better to light a candle than curse the darkness.

      I do want to remind us all that there is a difference between a "spot at the table", included, welcomed, and wanted. Allow me to provide a little parable, and I by no mean have any reason to complain but it is my story.

      When I first started my last job I was very much in the minority. The company had been founded as a Christian Mission that happened to have a very succesful amplifier company as a result. I point blank asked during the interview process, "So how do I as a non-Christian fit in? I do not feel comfortable going to the required weekly prayer meetings." This was in January of 2000. I am of Jewish haritage and I do not eat pork as part of remembering my heritage. I was told by multiple people that it would not be an issue at all, plus the EOE stuff.

      Well there were monthly potluck or carry-in lunches, not a formal company event but a social event held by the department. The first time I went, I asked for help figuring out what I could eat. It was not a very warm reception. The basic answer is, well we can't really ask everyone what they made. . So the next time a couple of days before the lunch I asked if people could label their dishes, so people would know what they were having. I didn't ask people to put their names on it but things like just indicate what the food was. Yeah, not well received. Month three, I brown bagged it and brought a dish to share.

      I got many many questions about why I didn't eat from the buffet. I just said dietary restrictions, you know something none commital. It got more and more awkward, I finally said well I am of Jewish heritage and I am following the dietary rule of "You may eat any animal that has a split hoof completely divided and that chews the cud” from Leviticus. It got more awkward from there.

      I learned and internalized "welcomed" is not accepted or included. People still made inappropriatte remarks for years.

      I cannot imagine the effort it takes for women and minorities to deal with these things in the world. I applaud the effort of acknowledging a group and raising awareness, but we all have more to do.

      As I said, I am speaking from a position of white male priviledge, I know it. I have very little to complain about in the grand scheme of things. However it still made me feel like (--is this R rated or PG-13 --). Just extrapolating from my years of discomfort I have a lot of empathy and respect for others who have to deal with much worse.

    • Felicity

      Given that it was originally a socialist event, I think about women's work. Much as I hate to admit to cynicism, the thing I saw that most summed up IWD for me was the picture at the end of this post, by Oxford professor Sophie Smith.

      I guess I've been thinking about the wage gap -- often quoted as 80% in America, but actually a set of racially different wage gaps, bottoming out for Latinas who make 54% what white men make (all stats grabbed from American Association of University Women). It's a complicated, interconnected set of problems, including those commonly cited in white-collar industries of women not advocating for raises or higher initial salaries; institutional sexism prompting managers to offer men more, especially if they think they're 'breadwinners'; lost wages from sexual harassment leading to women quitting or losing opportunities; and overwhelmingly, the fact that jobs traditionally associated with women are paid less. And that's just the labor for which women are paid. All over the world, not only childcare but elder care within families is overwhelmingly done by women; women do more housework in heterosexual partnerships (many studies -- the latest was from Canada); women also volunteer more, in America at least.

      A long time ago -- and I don't have a cite for this, as I couldn't even tell you the name of the textbook -- I read in a collection of anthropology papers for an intro anthro class that in hunter-gatherer societies, women's status and rights in society correlate very closely with what percentage of the society's calories they provide. Sure, there's a lot going on in modern culture that's more complicated than putting food in mouths. Tradition, culture, family structures, sex roles drilled into kids' minds from birth, you name it. But I can't escape the idea that on a fundamental level, our society stops women's contributions from being counted as equal or rewarded as fully as men's, and then respects women less because of it.

      So, sad and cynical as it sounds, what International Women's Day means to me is a female worker scrubbing away a message calling for celebration and solidarity around women, while a bunch of men stand above her chatting and looking important.

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