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    • .. no, not that cheesy, worn out as tire expression purported to mean the sublime. Or immediately thinking of sex. I am referring to that which makes us humans, to feel life worth living. The smart ancient Greeks kinds of love subjects, of the plagiate below.

      The Ancient Greeks had eight words that corresponded to different types of love:

      Eros (romantic, passionate love)

      The first kind of love is Eros, named after the Greek God of fertility.

      Eros is passion, lust and pleasure.

      The ancient Greeks considered Eros to be dangerous and frightening as it involves a “loss of control” through the primal impulse to procreate. Eros is an intense form of love that arouses romantic and sexual feelings.

      Philia (affectionate love)

      The second type of love is Philia, or friendship.

      Plato felt that physical attraction was not a necessary part of love, hence the use of the word platonic to mean, “without physical attraction.”

      Agape (selfless, universal love)

      The third is Agape, selfless universal love, such as the love for strangers, nature, or God.

      This love is unconditional, bigger than ourselves, a boundless compassion and an infinite empathy that you extended to everyone, whether they are family members or distant strangers.

      Storge (familiar love)

      Storge is a natural form of affection experienced between family members.

      This protective, kinship-based love is common between parents and their children, and children for their parents.

      Storge can also describe a sense of patriotism toward a country or allegiance to the same team.

      Mania (obsessive love)

      When love turns to obsession, it becomes mania.

      Stalking behaviors, co-dependency, extreme jealousy, and violence are all symptoms of Mania.

      Ludus (playful love)

      The Ancient Greeks thought of ludus as a playful form of love.

      It describes the situation of having a crush and acting on it, or the affection between young lovers.

      Pragma (enduring love)

      Pragma is a love built on commitment, understanding and long-term best interests.

      It is a love that has aged, matured and about making compromises to help the relationship work over time, also showing patience and tolerance.

      Philautia (self love)

      The Greeks understood that in order to care for others, we must first learn to care for ourselves.

      As Aristotle said “All friendly feelings for others are an extension of a man’s feelings for himself.”

      I need some time to reflect, but will come back to update when I know which I have experienced, how, why and perhaps which I'd dream of experiencing, before I go. I know it may seem awkward and too personal as a topic so if I see it's ignored to long, I'll delete it.

    • I had never heard of any of these terms, but I imagine me, my wife and daughter having Agape. Lately I’ve been questioning us tho because now there’s someone I loathe, and so does my wife. That’s a first for us, far as we can remember.

    • Love per se, as I came to learn over years, has a way of evolving sometimes mutating. I have so many thoughts and feelings on the topic that I feel I could write a book.. which would be intertwined with bits of my life. Since it is such a delicate topic, I do not feel we should want necessarily this conversation to become the focal point of any one person's life, not anymore than what they prefer it to be, but only perhaps to the point where it really is helpful to all and the bearer of feelings..

      But for me, it has been the past decade that has shaped my perception of love, the events in my life and persons I had met, one of them in particular. This forced me to seek deep within my self, and truly work hard to understand what has been going on, what is this that gives or takes away glitter to our lives.

      Examples abound of so called "broken" marriages, but is it really right or wrong for society to define acceptable behaviors, and force people into certain rigid relationships? I am not sure how right or wrong, but to me it does not appear to be healthy, in some cases - and I am sure you have seen this opinion, elsewhere.

      So yes, I believe analyzing love from philosophical point of life makes sense, it can help us. I believe only when we're too young we feel as if nothing needs to be explained, but once life leaves it's marks on our soul (I believe they are great both good and painful ones), we need understandings..

    • You are fortunate to have got this far without having an adverse reaction to someone !

      I would not call myself anti-social, as I enjoy the company of people a great deal. I do find, however, that my view of folk tends to polarise. Particularly as I get older, I find that there are some that I just don't even want to tolerate. This may be a feature of age, and the desire not to waste any time on things that don't truly matter.