When your child is anxious you as a parent want to comfort them. But you might need to try a different approach.
A Yale University study treated children's anxiety by teaching their parents new ways of responding to it.
'"The parent's own responses are a core and integral part of childhood anxiety," says Eli Lebowitz, a psychologist at the Yale School of Medicine who developed the training."'
Psychologists call the comforting parents do "accommodation" and it can actually be counterproductive for children with anxiety disorders, Lebowitz says.
1"These accommodations lead to worse anxiety in their child, rather than less anxiety," he says. That's because the child is always relying on the parents, he explains, so kids never learn to deal with stressful situations on their own and never learn they have the ability to cope with these moments.'
'"When you provide a lot of accommodation, the unspoken message is, 'You can't do this, so I'm going to help you,' " he says.'