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    • I used to feel envious of other parents who had kids that would gobble up anything they put in front of their toddler. How was it that my child would be the one that wanted to move nonstop and refuse to eat half the stuff we would make for him? Hunny, try this peach. No! Hunny, try this rice. No! Hunny, try this French fry. No! Which then we would default back to asking if he wanted avocado toast. Yes! But I’m changing my envious ways and accepting that I have a selective eater. Not picky but selective. He eats well and has his favorites. He just doesn’t care to eat everything and anything we put in front of him. And that’s ok. It didn’t always feel that way and I thought that I needed to push more often to get him to eat other things. But why create frustration or unnecessary stress for myself just to get him to try meat or grilled cheese? Maybe this is a sign that he’ll be a foodie and has discernible taste. In due time he’ll be ready to explore new tastes and flavors. For now, I’ll pick my battles and this isn’t one of them.

    • I was a really picky eater as a kid, and I'm really surprised that our 1 year old will eat pretty much anything we put in front of her. She also will shovel everything into her mouth in big handfuls too, with most of it ending up in her lap (she does get that from me).

      We recently broke the cycle, I tried giving her some Thai tofu curry chunks I bought at the store, she did not like those one bit :P

    • This story doesn't end like you think it will.

      During grades 3-5, I think, my mom and I were homeless on the streets of Oakland and we learned to eat anything or starve. Dog food was fine, soggy sandwiches we got from the garbage with brown avocado were delicious.

      As a teen, I was a summer camp counselor who taught outdoor survival and it didn't matter who you were, no exceptions, I could cure you of being picky. It was only a matter of being hungry enough until moths and worms were like delicious candy.

      However, I met my future wife at 21 and she was the pickiest eater I had ever heard of and I never attempted to take her out on survival and do the miracle cure for picky eaters. She passed her picky ways on to our kids (NO LEFTOVERS!! EW! THAT WAS IN THE FRIDGE SINCE THIS MORNING!! GAG.)

      And some of their kids became exceptionally picky too.

      In a strange reversal, I am now picky as well, but only for health reasons and it freaks out people who think I must have an eating disorder because I won't eat ice cream. WHAT IS WRONG WITH YOU?!

      And yet, when we were in Australia, the aborigines would eat grubs like candy. Looked pretty good to me. My daughter dry-heaved in horror. She hadn't been on survival with me.

    • No peaches?! 😯

      Parenting definitely requires picking your battles. I, too, vowed that I would not have picky eaters but I now have newborn through 10 and all of my older kids have at least one food they dislike. I do too, but that’s only because beets taste like dirt. 😝

      Instead of focusing on making them like stuff they don’t, we’ve focused on manners. So we offer them a choice of “a little or a lot” of things, allow them to say “No thank you,” and request that they only venture a negative review of food if they’ve been asked. “It’s not my favorite” is a fine response when someone asks. They know to take a polite bite when someone serves them food and to express appreciation even when it’s not their favorite. They get to try a wide variety of food and so far with age and palate maturity they’ve branched out lots all on their own.

      Aside from the polite bite, we also don’t try to get our kids to clean their plate or eat more than they’re hungry for. I’ve been surprised by how wildly my toddlers’ appetites vary by day! My hope is that they’ll stay in touch with their own hunger cues better if I don’t get all bossy about it 🤞🏻

    • I’m with you on the beets! I try them periodically but still can’t get on board with the texture and flavor. My mom would always encourage us throughout the years to keep trying the things we didn’t like because she would say your tastebuds change. I’ve found that I eat so many things nowadays that I never would have years ago. So maybe that phrase was a good message she kept repeating.

    • I read a similar story. Must have been based on the same study. It is reassuring that my focus on his eating shouldn’t be to make him eat everything we put in front of him. I want food to be a positive experience he enjoys so I’ll focus on giving options for him to choose from and let him develop his palate over time.

    • I’ll have to check my 23 and me results. I don’t recall what they told me about my distaste for beets but maybe it’s genetic. Beets look really beautiful in a lot of dishes but the flavor just doesn’t meet my expectations.

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