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    • “I lied and said I was busy, I was busy; but not in a way most people understand. I was busy taking deeper breaths, I was busy silencing irrational thoughts. I was busy calming a raving heart. I was busy telling myself I am okay. Sometimes this is my busy and I will not apologise for it.” - B.Oakman

      I read this quote today and it resonated with me. A lot of people think I'm an extrovert because I'm prolific on social media, but very nearly the opposite is true. I've always relied on alcohol for social lubrication when I'm forced to be in public. I'm cutting alcohol out for an extended period of time in 2019 for dietary reasons, and I'm wondering if I'll find myself that much "busier" as a result.

    • I just spent a half hour crafting an insightful and brilliant reply, but then my fat fingers hit the cancel button by accident and poof! it be all gone. (@Vilen any chance for a Zork themed “Are you really sure you want to do that?” prompt before deleting?)

      Anyhow, I received a suggestion from a friend that may prove useful if minimizing time at social engagements is the goal. Be at the party from the beginning. You’ll feel less overwhelmed meeting people one at a time as they arrive and you can leave early without offending the host. I tried this over the summer at a work retirement party and it went quite well.

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    • A lot of people think I'm an extrovert because I'm prolific on social media, but very nearly the opposite is true.

      Same here! I'm pretty outgoing online, but in person I'm veeeeeery introverted and I have some social anxiety. Doing anything social saps my energy pretty quickly, especially if it involves large groups of people, or people I don't know well.

      For a long time I forced myself to go to parties and gatherings and do other social things I found stressful and draining because that's what "normal" people do, but I often didn't enjoy it and would come home feeling drained and wishing I hadn't gone. Eventually I started making excuses to get out of doing social things I didn't want to do, but I hated that; even when there was some truth to the excuse, it still felt like lying because I was concealing my real reasons.

      Finally I just started being honest with people. I explain that I'm an introvert, that being social can be very draining for me, and that I'm just not feeling up to it. I do still do social things when I am feeling up to it, but I'm more honest with myself and other people when I'm not, and I spend less time feeling bad about it because at least I'm not lying to anyone.