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    • One thing I have found confusing lately with an infant is getting used to the new names everyone in our family has. My parents were always Mom & Dad, their parents were always Grandpa (First Name or Last Name) and Grandma (First Name or Last Name). It was much easier figuring out what everyone is call.

      Now I am Dad, and my wife is Mom. But my parents are also Mom and Dad. But they are also Grandma and Grandpa, or Nana and Papa on my Wife's side. And then there are Great Grandparents who are still around (luckily), and who knows what they should be called!

      Anyone have tricks on navigating this titular confusion? Is this just a fact of life I have to live with now?

    • When I was growing up, my parents always referred to my grandparents as "Grandma" and "Grandpa" when speaking to me and my siblings, but would usually use "Mom" or "Dad" when speaking to each other or other adults.

      I remember understanding the distinction (Grandma was "Grandma" to me but "Mom" to my mom) at a very early age, so I don't think it ever caused any confusion. I also understood that my great grandma was my grandma's mom and my mom's grandma.

      Related: I'm glad my parents taught us the words "grandma" and "grandpa" and didn't encourage us to use baby-talk words like "memaw" or "pepaw" or "mawmaw" or "pawpaw" or any of the other things kids say when they're still learning to pronounce things. I think that saved us a bunch of confusion as we got older, since those baby-talk words would've been embarrassing to say, but also endearing, so I would've felt like I had to keep using them even though I wouldn't have wanted to. 😄

    • Interesting. In my wife's family her grandfather is known as "Papa" and her grandmother is "Nana". I always thought that was strange as I grew up saying Grandma / Grandpa. I have gotten pretty used to it now, and it now actually seems to make a great shorthand. Thinking about it more, if my parents are Grandma and Grandpa, and her parents are Nana and Papa it makes a pretty easy distinction.

      I suppose it depends a little bit on family unit too: my cousins always referred to our shared grandfather as "shorty", even though he was quite tall. He called them shorty a few times so they started just calling him shorty too and it stuck.

    • When talking with one another, my wife and I tend to refer to our parents with possessive pronouns ("my dad," "your parents"); we only bust out the new nicknames when in a conversation that includes the 15-month-old ("grandma and grampa are coming over!"). We'll see if that gets confusing for the little one when she can say more than a few dozen words. :)

    • Yea! After about a year, that is what we have settled on as well. It feels pretty natural so far. It does make me wonder how long it will take for our kid to grasp that our parents are also her grandparents 🤔

    • Haha, oh jeez, I was trying to find new topics on Cake with more activity than the ones I was following for, dropped by "parenting," saw the post was "December 1" and thought it was a few days old. Sorry for the thread revival. Glad things worked out over the course of the year. though! 😂

    • Oh no that's great! Off topic, but one of the things that's so awesome about Cake is conversation persistence. My interest in this didn't change, happy someone wants to talk about it 😄

    • My mother-in-law actually has three names that her grandchildren call her. She has three sons and each set of grandkids call her by a different name. The oldest son’s kids call her NeNe (like ‘nee nee’) and have done so for the past 16 years. There was a large gap before more grandkids care into the picture. When my husband and I were expecting at the same time as his younger brother, we asked her if she still wanted that name or if she had something else she wanted. We all decided that Lulu would be perfect as it was a play off of her name. Well, fast forward to when our kids could start talking and turned out that my niece couldn’t pronounce Lulu without it sounding more like Nunu (‘noo noo’). So now that family calls her Nunu. Our son can say Lulu so we stayed with that name as it sounds so cute to hear him say her name with a rolled L sound. She doesn’t seem to care that she has three names but I suspect that we could call her anything and she’d be happy. She just loves having grandkids.

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