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    • Eric

      One thing I have found confusing lately with an infant is getting used to the new names everyone in our family has. My parents were always Mom & Dad, their parents were always Grandpa (First Name or Last Name) and Grandma (First Name or Last Name). It was much easier figuring out what everyone is call.

      Now I am Dad, and my wife is Mom. But my parents are also Mom and Dad. But they are also Grandma and Grandpa, or Nana and Papa on my Wife's side. And then there are Great Grandparents who are still around (luckily), and who knows what they should be called!

      Anyone have tricks on navigating this titular confusion? Is this just a fact of life I have to live with now?

    • yaypie

      When I was growing up, my parents always referred to my grandparents as "Grandma" and "Grandpa" when speaking to me and my siblings, but would usually use "Mom" or "Dad" when speaking to each other or other adults.

      I remember understanding the distinction (Grandma was "Grandma" to me but "Mom" to my mom) at a very early age, so I don't think it ever caused any confusion. I also understood that my great grandma was my grandma's mom and my mom's grandma.

      Related: I'm glad my parents taught us the words "grandma" and "grandpa" and didn't encourage us to use baby-talk words like "memaw" or "pepaw" or "mawmaw" or "pawpaw" or any of the other things kids say when they're still learning to pronounce things. I think that saved us a bunch of confusion as we got older, since those baby-talk words would've been embarrassing to say, but also endearing, so I would've felt like I had to keep using them even though I wouldn't have wanted to. 😄

    • Eric

      Interesting. In my wife's family her grandfather is known as "Papa" and her grandmother is "Nana". I always thought that was strange as I grew up saying Grandma / Grandpa. I have gotten pretty used to it now, and it now actually seems to make a great shorthand. Thinking about it more, if my parents are Grandma and Grandpa, and her parents are Nana and Papa it makes a pretty easy distinction.

      I suppose it depends a little bit on family unit too: my cousins always referred to our shared grandfather as "shorty", even though he was quite tall. He called them shorty a few times so they started just calling him shorty too and it stuck.

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