I am 29 years old and started playing Dungeons and Dragons about a year and a half ago. I was at one of my wife’s friends birthday parties, and while the adults were sitting around a fire the teens were playing a game at a nearby picnic table and seemed to be having a blast. Talking with one of their parents I found out they were playing Pathfinder (a game derived from the D&D 3rd edition ruleset, which wasn’t relayed or grasped by me at the time). I was being told how they were all obsessed with it, but it really brought them together and gave one of the more introverted kids something he loved to do and not only was he not shy about playing, he often led the group and got the others really into it.
A few weeks later, I was bored and looking for something to do, for a way to meet more people. Making friends as an adult is hard, we’re afraid of wasting others time and afraid of what others might think of is when they learn the things we truly believe in. I remembered this game and began to search online, this is when I found the great “D&D community.”
There are several websites, forums, streams, discord servers, anything you can think of related to D&D. People from all walks of life partake in this great game and it truly feels like the euphoric “judgement free zone.” Everyone comes together and forgets about their lives outside to pretend they are someone else for 4 hours. The first group I played woth included myself, a systems admin in NY, a University student majoring in music in Vancouver, a politician in Louisiana, and a mechanic in Sydney Australia. We were all so different but we shared thisbone thing, and for 4 hours every week we were the best of friends and nothing else in the world mattered.
I felt like I was a kid again. I felt like I was one of the kids at the picnic table at the birthday part that night, having the greatest time and completely oblivious to everything around me. D&D gives me and so many others that joy, to feel like a kid as an adult, even if it is just for 4 hours every week or month. It has revitalized me, and given me something I truly look forward to every day.