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    • Taylor Swift is on fire. She just dropped her seventh album, “Lover,” and it’s already the top seller of 2019. She also dropped some wisdom that deserves to be as widely appreciated as her music.

      In an interview on Aug. 25 on “CBS Sunday Morning,” Ms. Swift spoke up about our culture’s obsession with forgiveness. “People go on and on about you have to forgive and forget to move past something,” she said. “No, you don’t.”

      She’s right. You don’t have to forgive and forget to move on. And sometimes, you shouldn’t forgive or forget. You should resent.

      This is a thought provoking article that I really enjoyed. You really need to read it as there is too much to just quote here. It was well worth my time reading it.

    • The words that helped me most in life came from a political campaign. I don't know what your politics are and I hope it doesn't matter because maybe we can learn wise things from both sides of the aisle.

      Anyway, when Obama won the presidency, a journalist asked him how it happened that with so little executive experience his campaign had so little drama. McCain and Hillary had a lot of executive experience and their campaigns had drama.

      He responded that his staff knew there were three things you could focus on: the mission, personal grievance, and personal ambition. They understood focusing on the mission was the only thing to do, that it's the best way to solve personal grievance and personal ambition.

      I thought that was just so good, so simple, so right. Terrible things are going to happen to all of us; we'll get accused unfairly, betrayed, stolen from, hurt... It doesn't mean we have to forgive, but we can focus on the mission and everyone will be better off.

    • I wish the article had defined their terms, but I’m pretty sure I disagree wholeheartedly. 😆

      First, the linking of forgiveness with forgetting is a fundamental flaw. We never really forget anything, nor need we to move forward, but the inability or unwillingness to forgive has cankered souls, clouded vision and ruined lives throughout history.

      One definition of “forgive” is “stop feeling angry or resentful toward (someone) for an offense, flaw, or mistake.”

      Harboring anger or resentment doesn’t serve a person at all. You can regret someone’s choice, and their choice can inform your future choices (to protect yourself from future injury, for example), but I’ve yet to see an example in my life or anyone else’s where harboring those awful feelings enriched their life or anyone else’s. In contrast, I’ve been profoundly inspired by the way forgiveness has opened the door for healing and love in situations where the offense was far more grave than than what happened to Taylor Swift. Google “forgiveness sandy hook” as a start. 😲